In a recent video on the Internet, the journey of a young Nigerian named Giannis Antetokounmpo is presented. This young man has crossed several countries, including Greece and the United States, to succeed in professional basketball. He leads a comfortable life and enjoys his career. He’s been in a relationship with a woman for a few years, but they’re not married. Some people wonder why they don’t get married.
It’s interesting to note that today, many people, especially those who are successful, choose not to marry. This raises the question of why these people are reluctant to commit to marriage, especially those who are hard-working and financially successful.
The marriage dilemma for successful men
Giannis, as an exceptional and talented basketball player, has a promising future and earns a lot of money. He’s focused, hard-working and dedicated to his career. However, people generally expect a successful man to marry and share the fruits of his success with his partner. It’s often said that it’s thanks to the woman who accompanies him that the man succeeds.
But it’s important to understand that not getting married doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t love someone. There are many factors to consider. Some people are not married, but really love each other, while others are married but no longer love each other. Marriage can be seen as a sign of respect and consideration, especially from an African perspective, but many successful men have realized that marriage can be dangerous, especially in the United States.
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A high risk of divorce
In the U.S., it’s possible to marry a woman of lower social status, who is financially less well-off, which creates imbalances. Women generally look for a man who is socially well situated, or even better off than they are, in order to improve their own situation. Many women wonder why they should marry a poor man if they come from a poor family themselves.
When a man meets a woman, the first question he’s often asked is, “What does he do for a living?” This shows just how important the financial situation is. If the man doesn’t treat the woman well, it’s often advisable to leave him, but if it’s a man with a certain social status, it’s encouraged to marry him, even if he behaves abusively.
So it’s understandable that many people, especially successful men, are reluctant to get married, because they see marriage as a potential risk. In the United States, the reality is that 80% of marriages end in divorce, and it’s often the women who file for divorce. Women are often the ones who encourage marriage, but they are also the ones who ask for divorce.
Women, a complex subject
It’s important to question relationships and not let ourselves be influenced by outside pressures. Marriage is the starting point for a new phase in life, but many women want to get married without being ready to take on the responsibility of a home. Many women aspire to marriage in order to be seen and worshipped by all, especially when it involves a rich man, forgetting the true implications of marriage.
Here’s an example of young Janis, who worked hard and succeeded in life. Generally speaking, men choose their partners, not the other way around. Men are able to love a woman from nowhere, uneducated, out of genuine love, while it’s rare to see a successful woman marry an illiterate man. Men are the ones who love for real, without make-up or artifice, while women find it hard to love in this way.
Be selective!
Many men find themselves in difficult situations after marriage, where they have worked for many years to accumulate money, but end up losing it in a divorce. What’s the point of a man getting married if his wife brings nothing to his life? Even if the marriage was not entered into under a community property regime, it is possible to lose half of your assets in a divorce by invoking strong arguments.
It’s important to know that many women don’t bring anything important to a man’s life, apart from sex. Men are therefore encouraged not to marry a woman who brings them nothing intellectually. We don’t love a woman for her looks, but for the positive impact she has on our lives. Likewise, it’s important to choose a mature woman in such a way that she’s more of a help than a burden.
On the other hand, there are women who aren’t cut out to be wives, but who can make excellent girlfriends. We have to respect people’s choices and let things happen naturally. Social pressure should not be a determining factor in the decision to marry. There are many examples of celebrities who are in a relationship but have decided not to get married, so they’re moving on!
In conclusion, it’s important to think carefully before getting married, and to choose a partner who really brings something positive to your life, both intellectually and in other respects.
Totally inspired by Zack Mwekassa’s video
